Menopause Almost Wrecked My Business – It’s Been Ugly!

Menopause Almost Wrecked My Business – It’s Been Ugly!


The good, the bad, and the ugly about raising
a business. What? You don’t raise a business, you grow a business. Well, actually you do raise it. It’s a lot like raising a kid and there is
the good, the bad, and the ugly that goes along with it. We’re going to talk about that today. Hi there. I’m Angela Brown and this is Ask a House Cleaner. This is a show where you get to ask a housecleaning
question and I get to help you find an answer. Now, today’s show is brought to us by Savvy
Cleaner Training, which is a training company where we help savvy cleaners grow their businesses
and scale their businesses, and sometimes we’re working through the good, the bad and the ugly. You can check it out at SavvyCleaner.com All right, onto today’s show. This is a really super sensitive subject. I really debated whether or not I should even
record this show. As I’ve recorded this show over the last couple
of years for you, I’ve tried to bring you just the good, only the good, because that’s
where I celebrate this show, is it’s a happy part of my day. But there are ugly moments that you have to
deal within business, and this has been an ugly year for me, for me personally. It’s interesting, because I have systems in
place, which is my only salvation. I have to talk to you a little bit about the
systems today, because the systems have pulled me through. About a year ago in October, I hit this weird
menopausal phase of my life where all of my hormones went out of whack against my will. If I had a choice and I said, “I control this,”
suddenly I did not. So everything that I know about myself, getting
up in the morning, exercising, the things that spark joy in my day, no longer sparked joy. I was like, “Whoa, what is going on? This is super weird. Why do I feel this way?” Then there were also moments where things
that normally would not bother me would agitate me to no end. I was super irritable about some of the weirdest
things. I remember one night … I work out of my
house, I’ve got a studio in my house, I’ve got lots of people that come to my house every day. But I was at my house one night and I was
working and my husband came home late. He saw that I was still working and he said,
“Can I make you some soup?” and I said, “Yes, that’s fine, thank you.” Then he said, “What kind of soup have you
like?” and I said, “I don’t care, whatever kind of soup you’d like to make.” Then he says, “No, no. Really, what kind of soup would you like?”
and I remember getting so angry like, “I don’t care. Why don’t you just go find some soup? I don’t care what you make.” Right? I didn’t say those words, those all happened
inside my head, and I just had to freeze and say to myself, “He sees that you’re working
late, he knows that you haven’t eaten, and he’s trying to help you. If you get angry with him right now, he’s
not going to make you any soup on any other night, so don’t ruin a good thing by being
irritable.” But I remember sitting there just being so
irritated, like are you asking me about the soup, right? Something just so innocent that it was no
fault of his own, but I had no business even having those thoughts, right? Then, if you are menopausal and all of your
hormones are out of whack, anything can happen at any moment. Now, my job is to show up every day and to
motivate a team of people. In this process of motivating a team of people,
I have a YouTube show, right? Part of the YouTube show, people write into
the show and they have questions and they have comments, and some people love us and
some people hate us. Well, that’s okay. It comes with the territory, right? But one of the weirdest things about it is
I got to show up every day and motivate my editors to keep editing videos when we have haters. So I have to read the hating comments, I have
to decide how I’m going to deal with those, and then I have to flip it so that when I
go motivate my team, they’re not insulted and they don’t feel like their work is unappreciated,
otherwise, they’re not going to come back to work tomorrow and then we’re not going to
have a show. Right? It’s been super hard to try to cushion them
from the haters, and so I have a blacklist. I hate to say this, but there’s a blacklist
of people that are really high maintenance. Don’t ask me why the haters keep coming back. They keep watching the show and they keep
responding and they keep participating, even though they hate us. I want to say, “You’re free to move on. There are other YouTube channels, you don’t
have to hang out with ours. Go away,” right? I don’t want to be mean to them, because for
some reason they keep coming back, but I have to cushion that so that my editors aren’t
offended. There are little things like that that I’ve
been fighting on a day-to-day basis. Now, with the hormone thing, what is with
the hormone thing? If you’ve ever gone through either a gawky
teenager phase, where your voice changes at a certain point, or whether you have a growth
spurt or whatever it is, and you’re not like your friends, you feel weird and stupid anyway. I’ve been this height and this weight since
I was about 11 years old, and here I am, this huge person compared to all my friends until
my friends got their growth spurts and they caught up with me, right? But here I was feeling really awkward and
gawky and out of my skin. Now, as an adult, I’m feeling the same way. Everything is out of whack. It’s the only thing that’s changed. So, I had to say to myself, “Calm down. That’s the only thing that’s changed. Your workout routine is the same, your sleeping
is the same, your work schedule is the same. So everything is the same. You’re loved, you’re well cared for, you’re
taken care of. Everything’s okay, except your hormones are
out of whack, so isolate it to the hormone thing and don’t let it ruin your day or your
life.” But this last year has been the most craziest
year of my life. At any moment I could just start crying for
no reason and I’m usually pretty even keel when it comes to mood swings and stuff, right? There are things that I’ve always respected,
like my physical health, and then suddenly I woke up one day and I didn’t care. If I get out of bed, I don’t care. If I go work out, I don’t care. I just don’t care. It’s really weird because I don’t have the
luxury of not being able to care. One of the weirdest things, and I talk about
systems, one of the weirdest things is that I have a YouTube channel. Every single day, no matter what, I’m going
to get in front of a camera and I’m going to produce a show. In addition to that, I have people coming
to my house every day that are going to help my team grow and they build my company, right? So if it wasn’t for people coming to my house,
I may never have gotten out of bed this last year, but I had to get up every day because
I’m going to do a show and because I have people coming. I have to get up and take a shower every single day. I have to work out every single day before
everybody gets here. I clean the house every single day because
I’m afraid that people are going to take pictures of my kitchen and go, “Look, there are crumbs
in her house,” or something like that. So I’ve got to make sure the bathrooms are
wiped down, and the kitchen is wiped down, and the floors are vacuumed, and everything’s
picked up before everybody arrives for the day, right? So I have not had the luxury of feeling miserable
and sorry for myself and sleeping in and all those things. Well, the reality is those systems have pulled
me through because there are days when I didn’t feel like doing any of it, including getting
up and making a video. There are times I just slugged through it,
like, “You know what? That’s what we do,” and so you make yourself
do it. Now, the reason I’m telling you this is not
so you’ll feel sorry for me. Because if you’re female, you’re going to
go through menopause one day too and I just want you to remember that you will survive. As I look around the world around me, there
are lots of women that have survived menopause. I’m going to make it, right, but it has been
the toughest year of my life. While it’s been the toughest year, I keep
saying to myself, “The systems will save you. The systems will save you. You’re going to get up every day. You’re going to take a shower, you’re still
going to do your laundry every day,” not every day, but I do the laundry once a week. I’m going to wipe down the kitchen and the
bathroom and all that stuff every day. All that stuff is going to happen because
that’s part of this system. Because it’s part of the system, it’s gotten
done and everything has flowed seamlessly except for the weird hormonal rage thing that’s
been going on in the background of my life. Now, the cool part is this. The business has exploded. I mean, it has exploded. We have done so much, so fast, in such a very
short period of time. But along with that comes a lot of customer
complaints and customer growth, and there’s an opportunity to renovate your business in
a way that’s meaningful by taking what you learn and implementing it. So every time we get a customer complaint,
instead of getting upset and angry, I say to myself, “This is a learning opportunity. Let’s make the most of this,” and on the inside
of my head I’m like, “Why are we going through this right now?” I just want to shout out somebody, right? That’s how I feel on the inside and I have
to just keep biting my tongue and say, “It’s okay. You’re going to survive. You’re going to make it through this.” Okay, so the reason I bring this up, at any
different phase of your business, it’s a lot like raising a child. There are moments that are just spectacular
and you go, “Yes, that’s why we’re here.” Then there are moments that you’re like, “Oh
my goodness, I can’t believe this is happening right now,” and you have to just keep plugging
away. When you have a kid, you don’t get to just
toss them out like we toss out our social media friends when we get bored or tired of
them, and we block and delete them and make them go away. You can’t do that with your kids, you can’t
do that with your business, right? So you have to plow through. The easiest way to plow through, and the only
salvation for me this last year, has been the systems will save you. You’ve got to have the systems in place, you’ve
got to have documentation for everything. When you hire people, you have to be able
to train them, and if they don’t work out, you have to be able to train new people with
the systems that you’ve documented. Then you have to follow the systems every
single day. Now, we call it the boring routine. It’s boring because we’re not reinventing
the wheel every day. It’s a boring system because it’s routine. It’s happenstance. You wake up, it just happens, because that’s
the system. Everybody knows their part, everybody does
what they’re supposed to do. As a result of it, everything falls in place,
everything moves forward. The systems will save you. The next thing that I have to mention is there
will be the good, the bad, and the ugly in your business. It’s going to happen in every business. Who knows if it’s going to be related to a
death in the family, or if it’s going to be related to something that you have no control
over, like your hormones for example, right? You have no idea. There are things in your business that will
just grab you to the court and you have to stop and say, “Listen, this is an isolated
situation. All the systems will keep running in the background. The systems will save us.” You have to trust in the systems that you’ve
created. The scary part is businesses that have no
systems. If you have no systems, there’s nothing to
save you. Because if something weird happens and you
are upheaved from your regular routine, you may never get back to it. So if you wake up and you say, “I know what
the routine is. I know what I’m wearing for the day,” and
thank goodness I got a uniform that I wear every day, I wear my hair the same way every
day. If I didn’t, oh, this last year would’ve been
the ugliest year of my life, right? I don’t know what I would have worn except
pajamas and my hair would have just been like, “Errgh.” The reason I bring this up, it is time. If your business is flowing seamlessly, right
now is the time to create your systems. I don’t know what that looks like for you,
but the systems will save you if you have them in place. If you don’t have them in place, there’s nothing
to save you. There will be the good, the bad, and the ugly. I sure don’t wish this last year, whatever
this was I’m going through, I don’t wish it on anyone. It’s been miserable. If you think it’s miserable having one menopausal
woman in your business, try having three or four. I’ll tell you what, there are days that we
all just look at each other and it’s like oooh, and then we all go our separate directions
so that we don’t hurt anyone, and all of our relationships are still intact. In our company we allow for three bad days
a month, but what do you do when suddenly there are 30 bad days a month? I know. It’s almost impossible to run a company, right? So this is why we’re having this conversation
today. There are some very real moments in business. Business is tough all by itself when everything
is going well and when it’s not going well, it’s even that much tougher. The reality is there is good, bad, and ugly
in your business, and you will experience it at some point. So my suggestion to you is even today, if
today’s a good day, start with your systems and get them in place. Because the systems, my friend, will save
you. Alrighty. That’s it for today. If you found this helpful, please pass it
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27 Comments

  1. Renee Bank says:

    Thank you for sharing! No one warned me this was going to happen. You've gave me hope to know I'm not alone and this to shall past.

  2. poolahpot says:

    Please check out the late dr john lee md https://www.johnleemd.com
    His books are a lifesaver. (i purchased a few on amazon)
    Also, barbara hoffman here on youtube is incredible! She studied under him and has helped 10’s of thousands of women.(me included)
    35 symptoms https://youtu.be/4QnBfrBjCp0 (there are more than this too!)
    She will answer all emails and even give free phone consults!
    She really is incredible.❤️

    I’m 50 and a year ago i finally crashed.
    I took a ZRT hormone Female/Male Saliva Profile III test and oh wow, i was shocked.
    https://store.zrtlab.com/index.php/saliva-testing This test can be found on other websites for less and sometimes on sale.
    Every thing was off the chart low(except testosterone ) and even though my P & E were super low i was still estrogen dominant😩 and my cortisol was totally backwards! (tired upon awaking and wide awake in the evening! 😩
    Now, 3 months later, i am feeling SO much better. Still have a little ways to go, but SO much better!
    Things i’ve implemented thus far….
    Bioidentical organic usp progesterone cream(yam based) TOTALLY has leveled out my moods! yay! It’s the happy hormone! 🤗🤗🤗
    DHEA 5-10mgs,
    pregnenolone 10mgs,
    liposomal GABA & theanine, liposomal melatonin. (the progesterone cream GABA & melatonin help me sleep like a baby again)

    Note: perimenopause symptoms can start in your early 30’s 😳
    SOOOOOO glad you talked about this!
    It needs to be shared!

    Another side note : many people have been misinformed concerning progesterone.
    Yes, progesterone BY MOUTH(especially synthetic or horse urine derived) has a potential to cause blood clots and other problems….BUT BUT BUT natural yam based bioidentical usp progesterone CREAMS DO NOT have these potentially dangerous side effects!

  3. Carol Stout says:

    Thank you for sharing a very personal thing because every woman will experience this at some point. And someone watching might think they are the only one. It’s always nice to know there is a way to get through.

  4. Brenda Nelson says:

    Thank you! Very good ideas on systems. Going through this myself I found keeping a routine no matter how messed up I felt got me through my hormones. Something as simple as making the bed everyday.
    Love your channel! Has given me motivation again to clean my house!

  5. Julia S says:

    Love your perspectives! 💐

  6. Love says:

    Thanks for your raw and truthful honesty. It is refreshing. You explained so much so well. I feel alone in my menopause head and it is good to hear it’s not my imagination and I am not alone in how I feel. You described so many things that I am experiencing and never really related it to menopause. The big one is how much I don’t (but really do) care about stuff any longer. I hope I get through this without too much collateral damage to those surrounding me. Thanks again, it helps hearing others speak out. And I do love your cleaning channel and I am a consumer who loves to learn.

  7. Christine Madrazo says:

    YES!!! Thank you, Angela.

  8. LJ Howard says:

    You’re awesome! I needed this post! Ty

  9. Kia Jones says:

    Beautiful video, thank you.

  10. Brenda Scarbrough says:

    WOW! Your soup story is a perfect example of hormone imbalance and the unreasonable thoughts skittering around in an unfocused mind. Well done! Sharing your experiences will help other women no matter their business status. It's invaluable. I'm long past that experience but it was ghastly. The never ending jokes about even annoyed me. I would cry at a commercial! I'm so happy to be beyond that but so appreciate your service to other women who are going through this.

  11. Selina Mcbride says:

    Thank You so much for sharing this most challenging part of my life being a woman……Thank you for speaking out we, I needed this today……Menopause is a game changer in our lives as women 😊🥰

  12. Elizabeth Wolfgang says:

    You explained the menopause curse perfectly. For me, the hot flashes threw me for a loop.

  13. Angela Hite says:

    Hang in there Ang!

  14. Theresa Lynn says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so grateful to know I'm not the only one who has been menopausal. I appreciate your being real and sharing truth because life is difficult and we all struggle at some point in our lives. Thank you for sharing your survival system. Hopefully, I will be able to incorporate some of your ideas to make my business a little less stressful. Have an awesome day and Clean On!😊🌻💐

  15. nwele says:

    A big THANK YOU for sharing!!
    ETA: Thank you for being also so altruistic sharing your knowledge and expertise, inspiring us despite what you were going through.
    You are simply amazing <3

  16. Sherry G says:

    Thank you for addressing this. I think women suffered in silence for so many years. I didn’t suffer too much with menopause at age 50, but have experienced horrible anxiety at age 59. That threw me for a loop, because just growing older on its own can throw you under the bus. But fortunately there are ways to cope with anxiety, just as with menopause. Systems sound like a good way to cope, in my case it was cognitive brain therapy, and it sounds like you did that too. My husband is an independent contractor, and boy the stress of your own business is huge at times! I admire all of you with your own business.

  17. carolyn says:

    this has been a great video. you did a fabulous job covering this topic, but honestly this is a great mind frame for life! not just going through the menopause phase. routine routine routine. we all are wired to have a routine and need that for a "normal" existence. I can tell you that iodine saved me this past year from the hot flashes. Iodine is a hard mineral to have readily available in our diets. that is why table salt is fortified with it (and I don't use table salt so….. therefore easily lacking it) for intake. it isn't readily available and we are often lacking it in our diet. Betadine, ( or any store brand povidine-iodine solution) the wound cleanser, is a great way to get this mineral. rub it on your belly before bed and wear an old tshirt. it will stain an orangey color on it, but by morning you will have absorbed all the iodine into your body. helping to regulate your thyroid.

  18. Soo Marasigan says:

    Thank you for sharing this…❤️

  19. Jane Thomas says:

    Great video. I was having terrible hot flashes for 7 years and I started taking Maca powder and it reduced them to almost nothing. Mixed one teaspoon into unsweetened applesauce daily. Amazing relief for me. Do your research first.

  20. Susan Lewis says:

    I admire your positivity. Thanks for sharing.

  21. Desert Dreamer says:

    It's brutal. You may be estrogen dominant. After getting my blow-torch hot flashes – three times every hour, I invested in some organic progesterone cream and I have only a few a day and they only last about 30 seconds and I don't feel like taking people's heads off anymore or have the severe brain fog I used to have. I'm definitely more chilled out. My poor husband. He's thankful as I am for progesterone cream OTC.

  22. Carmen Walker says:

    Love your channel Angela ! I'm a housekeeper in a hospital and I love your tips and tricks 😀 Thank You for your expertise and for having a wonderful business !

  23. Gray & Gorgeous says:

    Thank you Angela . I am going through the change and have a cleaning business and I am getting ready to hire. I was wondering if it would effect things. Great advice thank you. PS stay hydrated, I know that sounds too simple but it will helps with the grumps and also vitamin E .

  24. ca31 says:

    You having your hair down is very different. I didn’t recognize you at first until I saw the green screen chemicals, they I knew who it was 😂

  25. Happy Day says:

    Wow menopause 😳, and I can tell your a normally well balanced person and take good care of yourself. If I had any suggestions it would only be increasing your prayer life, and don’t stretch yourself too thin have some down time for R&R, and doing other things you enjoy besides house cleaning. Trust things won’t fall apart. I’m sure our Heavenly Father who placed these seasons of change in our lives didn’t intend for us to have a sense of feeling like we are “losing it” during the menopause stage. I’m naturally not that sweet a person, but God has made me like an Angel for years now, since I began praying and reading the Bible frequently. I’ll be 50 next month and so far so good. I’m totally afraid (knowing myself) of what I would become, and be like if I didn’t grip tightly to His hand in life. God bless you🌷! Thanks for being open and sharing.

  26. gr8fulgirl7 says:

    Angela…..thanks for this video! Glad you are feeling better. This was me last year ~ it probably wasn’t the best time to have moved out of our home of 12 years. Coupled with back problems it was miserable. It was so nice to not have cried through the holiday last week…..it’s a tough road for sure and it’s hard to find women that have gone through it naturally.

  27. Sunflower Fields says:

    OMG I am so glad I'm not alone.

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